Body Positivity and surviving violence

Today's post comes from a student who found the ability to love themselves after experiencing trauma. TW: Gender-Based Violence, disordered eating

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Today's post comes from a student who found the ability to love themselves after experiencing trauma

TW: Gender-Based Violence, disordered eating

After years of being objectified and suffering different types of gender-based abuse, I had a very strange love/hate relationship with my body, between thinking it was my only asset and being absolutely repulsed by it. It took me years (and some therapy) to realise that I am so much more than my cup size that my dress size does not define me as a person.

I am slowly learning to accept my body for what it is, and to appreciate it for its strength, for what it enables me to do every day, and for its beauty. I can run, I can dance, I can learn and hug my loved ones thanks to it. I’m not often ill, and when I am, it’s usually a sign that I need to slow down and listen to myself more. My relationship with weight gain and loss has changed as a result too; my priority is now my health, and not my appearance. I eat fruit and vegetables for their vitamins and taste, not because of their calorie content. I no longer panic at the idea of weight gain and do not feel guilty for treating myself to a takeaway on a Friday night. It’s so liberating to finally accept who I am!

And even though I am substantially bigger than I was a few years ago, I am a lot happier and at peace with myself and my body. And best of all: I no longer rely on a male gaze to believe I am worth anything. 


This blog covers some very serious and difficult topics which you might find triggering. If you feel affected in anyway, please get in touch with one of the following for support:   

Advice Hub 

Student Wellbeing Services 

Student Counselling Services 

Edinburgh Nightline 

Riccarton Medical Centre 

The Galashiels Health Centre (GP): Currie Road, Galashiels TD1 2UA, Phone: 01896 661366 

Y-Talk Orkney (counselling services) 


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